According to the World Health Organization, one in three women will be sexually or physically assaulted in her lifetime. These rates are very similar for non-binary people and other feminized people, too. This is rape culture, and young adults are living through it here and now. Fired Up about Consent is a practical, survivor-informed primer for young people who want to learn how to build joyful, mutually satisfying sex lives and relationships.
In these pages, author Sarah Ratchford defines rape and sexual assault, busts the myths behind toothless messaging and outdated advice, and provides sex-positive scripts on how to ask for and offer a clear, enthusiastic, and freely given “Yes!” Along the way, Ratchford touches on topics such as #MeToo, gender identity, masturbation, virginity, porn, sex work, reporting assault, and more, all through a radically inclusive and intersectional lens.
The message is loud and clear: not only is consent sexy, it’s mandatory—and everyone deserves frank and empowering literacy around it. Only with empathy, compassion, and resistance can we move forward into a new culture of consent.
Sarah Ratchford is a feminist journalist with a focus on social justice. They cover sexual health and consent, reproductive justice, trans health, and feminist activism. Their essays, features and news stories have appeared in The Walrus, The Toronto Star, Chatelaine, Flare, Elle, Refinery29, and Cosmopolitan. They’ve hosted and produced a number of VICE documentaries on sex work law, trans health, and abortion access. Fired Up about Consent is their first book.
“A powerful, well researched, no-holds-barred book about consent.” — Danielle Younge-Ullman, award-winning author of He Must Like You
“Sarah Ratchford has a powerful way of facing and transforming misogynistic and binary language into a holistic, survivor-centred way of communicating and sharing knowledge about rape, consent, and choice, like only a survivor can.” — Viktoria Belle, Executive Director, The Dandelion Initiative
“A necessary primer for every young person determined to dismantle rape culture. It is overflowing with compassion for survivors and their allies, while never shying away from naming hard truths. I wish this book existed when I was a young organizer!” — Julie S. Lalonde, author of Resilience Is Futile: The Life and Death and Life of Julie S. Lalonde